New Year’s Eve is just around the corner and with it comes the traditional resolutions we make for the upcoming year. You know the drill: This year I am going to: lose weight, start exercising, eat healthy, give up the booze – well maybe not give it up but drink less, save money, etc., etc., etc. And as we make these resolutions, we really intend to keep them. But as the year goes on – well, you know, life usually gets in the way and the resolutions go out the window not long after the holiday wrapping paper goes in the garbage.
Our relationships; however, are not readily disposable (or at least they shouldn’t be). So below are 4 easy and very powerful resolution tips for rescuing and/or recovering your relationship from the “throw out” garbage pile of the New Year. These relationship tips are virtually guaranteed to recapture love & intimacy to make 2011 the year where romance comes roaring back into your relationship – and make fighting a thing of the past!
1. Prioritize your Relationship. With all the New Year’s resolutions you make – whether it is to lose weight, exercise more, save money, etc, – remember that all happiness begins with relationships – and your romantic relationship with your significant other MUST be made a priority or it will fade in love & intimacy – like many resolutions, unfortunately do. It really is so tempting to put your relationship on the back burner as the New Year gets underway and we have so many other things to focus on.
So remember, if don’t prioritize your relationship in the New Year, you might not have it in the next year.
2. Create shared visions based upon common goals in the New Year. As we create personal goals for what we want in the New Year, we often forget to share these goals with our partner. This could be a catastrophe. As 2010 is rapidly coming to a close – and you think about how you want the New Year to look like for your career and your self – you must also create shared visions and goals for your relationship. Communicate and then strategize with your partner your vision and goals for your relationship in 2011. This will keep you connected in the New Year and prevent you from the proverbially “drifting” or “growing” apart from each other.
Communicate, strategize and create new visions and goals for your relationship in 2011.
3. Create new hobbies and activities to enjoy together. If you always wanted to take a cooking class, do so with your partner in 2011. Why wait? Or maybe plan and take that exotic vacation you keep putting off “until next year” – year after year. New activities and hobbies keep your relationship from silently slipping into the same old dull routine – also known as a rut. And nothing makes a relationship feel more old and tired than a rut does.
Keep your relationship feeling exciting and alive with new activities you can enjoy together. Throw caution to the wind. Hey, you only live once!
4. Be creative sexually and share your sexual fantasies. Even couples who have a healthy active sex life need to spice it up once and awhile. If you feel uncomfortable verbalizing your sexual fantasies with your partner – send them a text and/or an email with your thoughts. Let them know it is a little awkward for you to share this information verbally and ask them to be sensitive with the information you are providing them with.
Sharing and acting on your sexual fantasies allows you to keep your sexual relationship fresh and vibrant throughout the New Year.
Whether you spend a quite evening at home or attend a festive party with a crowd of family and friends, ring in the New Year with the promise of recapturing love & intimacy as your #1 New Years Resolution for 2011. My wish for you in the upcoming year is all the love and happiness the world holds for you and the ones you love in 2011.
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