Nov
24

Be Thankful

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Happy Thanksgiving

Be thankful that you don’t already have everything you desire,
If you did, what would there be to look forward to?
Be thankful when you don’t know something
For it gives you the opportunity to learn.
Be thankful for the difficult times.
During those times you grow.
Be thankful for your limitations
Because they give you opportunities for improvement.
Be thankful for each new challenge
Because it will build your strength and character.
Be thankful for your mistakes
They will teach you valuable lessons.
Be thankful when you’re tired and weary
Because it means you’ve made a difference.
It is easy to be thankful for the good things.
A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are
also thankful for the setbacks.
GRATITUDE can turn a negative into a positive.
Find a way to be thankful for your troubles
and they can become your blessings.

Author Unknown

Happy Thanksgiving!

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Nov
21

Thanksgiving & Gratitude

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Video clip of Dr. Patty Ann from Saturday, 11/19 on @WFSB sharing ways to express your gratitude & increase your happiness!

 

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Stress is a silent killer. The inability to handle stress can kill your career. Stress can also literally – kill you. Watch today’s video blog where I share 5 easy, proven and effective ways to reduce work stress that will increase your chances for success in business and life.


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great-communicators-smlDon’t you just love this quote from the comedian George Bernard Shaw: “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.”

Ineffective communication is often at the root of failed leadership, disengaged employees, poor customer service and failed marriages.

The inability to connect with others is a symptom of ineffective communication.

John C. Maxwell, an internationally renowned leadership expert wrote a best selling book titled: “Everyone communicates, Few Connect”.

How true that statement is!

“Connecting is the ability to identify with people and relate to them in a way that increases your influence with them.” John C Maxwell

The ability to connect is what all great communicators nail down.

And they connect with people on an emotional level.

It is impossible to become a great leader, a great spouse, a great parent and a great friend if you cannot connect with others.

You can’t influence someone if you can’t build a connection with them.

Following are 7 effective strategies that great communicators use to connect with people.

Master these skills and watch your connection and influence with others soar!

1. It’s Not About ME – it’s about YOU (the person or the audience).

Great communicators do not try to impress their audience with their credentials, what they know and how smart they are.

They relate to the audience based upon where the audience is – so they feel understood.

This is true whether it is an audience of one or one million people.

2. Authentic. Great communicators stay true to themselves.

People can smell a phony a mile away! That is why great communicators don’t try to be anyone they are not.

People are drawn to others who radiate authenticity and honesty.

When people are drawn to you – chances are they will be drawn to your message as well.

Authenticity is the glue that binds the connection.

3. Read Body Language Like a Book. Research shows well over 50% of all communication is non-verbal. Therefore, the greatest source of truthful information is revealed in people’s body language.

Body language is constant. Unlike verbal communication, non-verbal communication never stops. It’s always sending signals about how someone thinks and feels.

Great communicators are experts when it comes to reading body language. They can read facial expressions and other non-verbal gestures that reveal how someone really feels and what they really think (which may be at odds with what they say).

Every great communicator knows it is just as important to know what is not being said, as much as it is to know what is being said.

4. Communicate with Authority without being Arrogant. Great communicators speak clearly and directly about how they feel and what they believe.

They do not leave you guessing as to what their message is because they tell it like it is.

Although great communicators are direct, they are not rude or offensive.

5. Active Listening Skills

Great communicators remain totally present while actively listening to others when they speak. They are not distracted by their surroundings or their own thoughts.

They remain totally focused on the speaker and what is being said to them.

The only way to insure your listener knows they are being heard is to actively listen to them.

Reframing is one of the most powerful techniques that are essential to active listening. Simply, you re-frame what someone has just said to you to insure you heard them correctly. For example you might say: “You’re basically saying the team is having a difficult time implementing this strategy, correct?”

6. Every Single Person in the Room Believes You are Talking Directly to Them!

When speaking to a large audience, great communicators develop a level of intimacy with the audience that makes every single person in the room feel as if they are the only person in the room.

This is no easy feat. It requires the ability to be genuine and express the same feelings and energy you would emit when speaking to an individual, as opposed to getting consumed by the anxiety of a large crowd.

If you’ve ever been in a large audience and yet you felt the speaker was talking directly to you – you know how emotional this experience can be – and how lasting that connection becomes!

7. Connect with Feelings not Facts. All great communicators know that you emotionally connect with your audience.

As Maya Angelou said: “People will forget what you said and did, but they will never forget how you made them feel.”

Enough said!

Every great communicator connects with their audience. Utilizing the above strategies will increase your ability to connect with the people in your professional and personal world.

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Did you know that the relationship tools for success are the same today as they were years ago? Watch this brief video where I share the ABC’s for success!

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staycalm3The ability to stay calm under pressure is often found in people with high levels of Emotional Intelligence. In the workplace, the ability to stay calm in the eye of the storm directly correlates with high performance.

TalentSmart research found that 90% of the best performing employees possess the ability to control and manage their emotions under pressure. Consequently, these people do not allow unbridled emotions and/or impulses to drive their decisions or actions.

People with high levels of Emotional Intelligence control their emotions, rather than allowing their emotions to control them.

Following are four simple ways to learn how to control your emotions so you can stay calm under pressure. The ability to manage your emotions will increase your emotional intelligence and overall performance, thereby increasing your success at work.

1. Get off Grid! Never ending work results in never ending stress. Working 24/7 seven days a week damages your body and brain. Everyone needs to give his or her brain and body a break.

You might think it’s cool you are always “on” but research shows your level of productivity diminishes once you hit the 50-hour work week.

Last year CNBC published an article discussing the ineffectiveness of overworking in an article titled: “Memo to work martyrs: Long hours make you less productive.” Check it out here.

Technology often makes it appear to be a herculean task to disconnect from work.

My advice here is to quite simply – turn it off! This includes your computer, your cell phone, your iPad and any automatic electronic notifications that “alert” you to incoming work messages. Unless you are a brain surgeon or involved in national security (and if you are reading this blog my guess is you are not), most incoming messages you are receiving “off “ hours are not that urgent! Really, they are not, so don’t flatter yourself!

Finally, totally unplug for a specific timeframe every single day. If that is impossible due to the nature of your work – then unplug at least over the weekends and during vacations and holidays.

YOU must control technology, rather than having technology control you.

Going completely off the grid will do your body and brain a world of good. It will give you a chance to rest, refuel and reenergize – otherwise you will always be running on fumes.

AND – to the point of this blog, going off the grid will directly increase your ability to stay calm under pressure – allowing your decisions to be made thoughtfully – not impulsively.

2. Keep things in perspective. All stressors and pressures are not created equal. S**t happens. It happens to everyone. It happens every day to someone. This begs the question: “How are you going to handle these pressures?”

We can’t control everything that happens to us – no one can. However, we can all control how we respond to our circumstances.

The very best way to handle stress when the s**t hits the fan is to ask yourself the following question: “What is the absolute worst thing that can happen as a result of this circumstance?”

Chances are no one will lose life or limb. Sure, some very unpleasant things might happen. Earnings might plummet, jobs might be lost, but life and death are probably not hanging in the balance.

This realization will go a long way in helping you keep things in perspective. This, in turn, allows us to stay calm and avoid making impulsive decisions or knee-jerk reactions since we know the world is not coming to an end!

People with high levels of Emotional Intelligence keep things in perspective. They keep reactions in check. They don’t overact.

3. Remain Positive. Closely connected to keeping things in perspective is remaining positive. Since we know keeping things in perspective helps us understand the world is not coming to an end, it allows us to avoid a doom and gloom case scenario attached to the crisis.

This realization will allow you to remain positive when faced with a crisis.

The key to remaining positive is to have a positive mindset. A positive mindset is half the battle in finding the solution to a difficult situation. There is no real value to hand wringing and expressing doom and gloom to a situation that most people already know is challenging and difficult.

Staying positive not only helps you find a solution – it is also contagious.

A “Negative Ned” and “Negative Nancy” can bring everyone down – a “Positive Paul” and “Positive Pam” brings everyone up. They provide hope and belief that you can find a way out of what might appear to be, at the moment, a dark – but not endless tunnel.

The ability to remain positive during a crisis allows you to be the calm in the eye of the storm- a trait exhibited by those with high emotional intelligence.

4. Breathe. Breathe deeply! The best way to remember to breathe when under pressure is to practice breathing on a daily basis. This way, when you are faced with pressure you can more easily remember to breathe appropriately.

This might sound simple but it works.

Deep breathing allows you to get centered and focused during times of stress. It promotes oxygenation to the brain, allowing you to think clearly.

The next time you are stressed, remember to breathe. You might be surprised how much this will increase your ability to process the stress and stay calm.

The ability to stay calm under pressure is a characteristic commonly found in people with high levels of Emotional Intelligence. Utilize the techniques discussed in this blog and watch your emotional intelligence – and success soar.

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Here’s a brief video of an interview I had at KONICA MINOLTA before my presentation. I’m discussing WHY closing the gender wage gap is NOT a woman’s issue – but an issue for the entire community and the world at large!

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Sep
15

The Secret to Getting Promoted

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Would you like to know what it takes to get that coveted promotion at work? Watch this video where I share 3 secrets that you must know if you want to move up the corporate ladder!

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5_Core_Components_Emotional_Intelligence2Do you know someone who is so smart – yet they constantly trip themselves up at work by saying the wrong thing, to the wrong person, at the wrong time, in the wrong way?

It seems as if these people cannot get out of their own way, both professionally and personally.

And if they could just get their act together, they would be so much more successful at work – and happier in their personal lives.

Chances are, these intellectually smart people lack emotional intelligence.

Emotional Intelligence Trumps Your IQ

Arguably, a high level of emotional intelligence trumps a high level of IQ every time.

No one really cares how smart you are if you cannot get along with people. If people find you to be abrasive, divisive and/or obnoxious, your career and business will take a direct hit as a consequence of your behavior.

No one will want to work with – or for you. You’re not that smart that people will be willing to tolerate you making them feel miserable, stupid, and angry or any other negative emotion(s) no one in their right mind wants to experience.

Therefore, nobody will voluntarily choose to be around you. As a matter of fact, they will avoid you like the plague.

Low emotional competence will cost you success in your work and create unhappiness in your personal life.

Why? Because Emotional Intelligence is an absolute prerequisite for success.

What exactly is Emotional Intelligence?

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~ as published in the Huffington Post

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Have you ever left a job interview knowing you just nailed it? And then you are shocked and confused as to why you didn’t get the job offer? Watch this brief video so you can learn a key tool of the interview process – that many people forget about.

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