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Are you looking for ways to decrease your anxiety during the coronavirus pandemic? Watch my @WTNH Ch. 8 TV interview where I share practical tips on decreasing your anxiety & fear regarding COVID-19 #coronavirus


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“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself”
President Roosevelt

“So, first of all, let me assert my firm belief that ‘The only thing we have to fear is fear itself’—nameless, unreasoning, unjustified terror which paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into advance.”

President Roosevelt spoke these words at his first inaugural address, at a time when the United States was in the midst of the Great Depression. They ring as true today as they did back then.

Following are some thoughts and suggestions I would like to share with the hope of providing some helpful insight and calm in the eye of the storm.

We are all feeling anxious & stressed. These feelings are normal and to be expected when faced with the uncertainty of our current dilemma with the coronavirus pandemic. How to test for it? How to contain it? How to treat it? And many many more unanswered questions.

Along with the daunting health challenges and ramifications, we cannot overestimate the havoc the coronavirus situation is playing on our economic and financial well-being.

Life as we know it is changed – forever.

Now here’s the good news. We are NOT facing Armageddon. Armageddon does not allow for lights, heat, and access to the Internet, zoom meetings, etc. We really have to resist the temptation of thinking – and acting like the end is here. This type of thinking is not helping – it really is not. Please remember that pervasive anxiety will make you sick too!

Here is a very succinct (grossly over-simplified) psychological perspective of what is going on.

We are all feeling anxiety. Anxiety left unchecked turns to F.E.A.R. Think of fear as standing for:
F- False
E- Evidence
A-Appearing (or Accepted as)
R-Real
This Fear quickly devolves into PANIC. The hoarding we are witnessing is a symptom of PANIC.

People go to the store and can’t find the basic foods and supplies they need – not because they are in short supply but because 5 people came into the store before them and each person bought a year’s supply of toilet paper and frozen vegetables. We see an entire aisle empty – no toilet paper, no hand wipes, no Lysol, no milk, no bread and your anxiety goes right through the roof. This anxiety rapidly turns to fear that quickly creates panic.

And the vicious cycle continues!

Following are 7 Tools on how to best stop the anxiety surrounding the spread of fear and panic related to the coronavirus.

  1. Control what you can control. Yes, there are many things you cannot control however look for the things you can.

    The MOST important thing you can control is your ATTITUDE & MINDSET. Are you thinking about the coronavirus as the end of the world? Or are you thinking about the coronavirus as quite the challenge that you are willing to take on?

  2. Limit your exposure to media coverage to reliable sources only, such as the CDC. While it is important to stay informed and up to date, you do not need to be plugged in 24/7 to every TV, radio, podcast, newspaper, FB post, blog, etc., that has something to say on the topic.

    Too much information will leave you feeling overwhelmed and anxious (and exhausted -because anxiety is exhausting)!

    Remember – the media thrives on bad news – and anxiety and fear sells.

  3. Your attitude about the current situation will determine your choices and course of action. Choose wisely- for yourself, your family and your colleagues.

  4. Look for the OPPORTUNITY. There is always a silver lining – however you need to be willing – and able to look for it. It won’t just appear. When life gives you lemons – make lemonade.

    Did you know that three years after the outbreak of the bubonic plague in Algeria, Albert Camus wrote “The Plague”? Literary scholars believe Shakespeare wrote some of his best plays during the plague in London. Isaac Newton is believed to have formulated some of his greatest theories that laid the foundation for a revolutionary understanding of how the world turns, literally and figuratively following the Great Fire of London.

    This is an entrepreneurial moment if I’ve ever seen one!

    Of course for the less ambitious crowd like myself, maybe you can finally clean out that kitchen drawer or closet you’ve been meaning to get around to since the dawn of time! J

  5. Breathe Deeply. Full Stop!

  6. Re-Connect with the important people in your life. Most of us can relate to (including our children) being way over-scheduled, running from one meeting (or call) to the next, rushing to work after dropping off the kids and then rushing to pick them up, etc.

    Now is a perfect time to take the time to strengthen the important relationships in your life that your previous world order forced you to neglect. Be truly present with your partner and children – give them your full, undivided attention. Pick up the phone – don’t text – literally pick up the phone and call an old college buddy or family member you’ve been meaning to call for way too long – but never had the time. Do it!

  7. Re-Connect with Yourself. In our pre-coronavirus world, many of us were so immersed in so many different activities that we became dis-connected from ourselves.

    We never seemed to find the time to do anything for ourselves. We were sleep deprived and exercise deprived. The only food we ate was, well, not exactly the picture of health. We couldn’t find the time to read that book(s) or listen to that podcast we know we would enjoy.

    As we re-set, as the new world order that has been thrust upon us takes shape
    Maybe now – we can find a way.

    We can find a way to create a positive attitude and mindset.
    We can find a way to take better care of ourselves.
    We can find a way for creativity.
    We can find a way to authentically strengthen our neglected relationships.
    We can find a way to re-connect with ourselves.
    We can find a way to start genuinely living – again.

    Be strong. Be kind. Be authentic. Be grateful. Be Courageous.

    “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.”

Note: Since the coronavirus pandemic hit, people whom I’ve coached and consulted with have asked me to share some advice and insights I may have regarding how to deal with the stress and anxiety of our current crisis. I hesitated for several reasons, including the fact that people are flooded with so much information, some accurate and some not so accurate. I was concerned my additional information might add to their sense of overwhelmed. Having said that, I have decided to share some insights because the requests have been so sincere and consistent that it was starting to feel irresponsible for me to withhold my knowledge – rooted in my education and work as a clinical psychologist, coach and consultant.

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5_Core_Components_Emotional_Intelligence2Do you know someone who is so smart – yet they constantly trip themselves up at work by saying the wrong thing, to the wrong person, at the wrong time, in the wrong way?

It seems as if these people cannot get out of their own way, both professionally and personally.

And if they could just get their act together, they would be so much more successful at work – and happier in their personal lives.

Chances are, these intellectually smart people lack emotional intelligence.

Emotional Intelligence Trumps Your IQ

Arguably, a high level of emotional intelligence trumps a high level of IQ every time.

No one really cares how smart you are if you cannot get along with people. If people find you to be abrasive, divisive and/or obnoxious, your career and business will take a direct hit as a consequence of your behavior.

No one will want to work with – or for you. You’re not that smart that people will be willing to tolerate you making them feel miserable, stupid, and angry or any other negative emotion(s) no one in their right mind wants to experience.

Therefore, nobody will voluntarily choose to be around you. As a matter of fact, they will avoid you like the plague.

Low emotional competence will cost you success in your work and create unhappiness in your personal life.

Why? Because Emotional Intelligence is an absolute prerequisite for success.

What exactly is Emotional Intelligence?

In Daniel Goleman’s book: “Working with Emotional Intelligence” he defines emotional intelligence as “the capacity for recognizing our own feelings and those of others, for motivating ourselves, and for managing emotions well in ourselves and in our relationships.”

In other words, emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize and regulate the expression of our emotions – and the emotions of others, in real time (not after the fact).

Whether you’re an entrepreneur, a corporate employee or a stay-at-home mom, Emotional Intelligence holds the key to your success and happiness.

Aristotle’s Challenge
Anyone can become angry – that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not easy.
Aristotle, The Nichomachean Ethics

Only those with a high level of emotional intelligence can meet Aristotle’s Challenge successfully.

Following are the 5 Core Components of Emotional Intelligence (emotional competency) – mastering these skills will increase your success and the overall happiness of your life.

1. Self-awareness is exhibited by knowing one’s feelings – in real time, i.e. as we are feeling them. Only when we are aware of our feelings, can we effectively use them to make good decisions.

In addition, people with high emotional intelligence make decisions based upon a realistic assessment of their capability and knowledge. They do not indulge in delusion thinking – thinking they are smarter than in fact they are.

2. Self-regulation refers to the ability to appropriately manage one’s emotions so they facilitate, rather than interfere with the decision or task at hand.

As per Aristotle’s challenge referenced above, being aware of our anger or any other feeling(s) we have, allow us to channel our anger in a productive -not destructive manner – thereby successfully mastering Aristotle’s challenge.

Also, those with a high EI have the ability to delay immediate gratification in pursuit of the goal and objective.

They have control over their emotions, rather than their emotions having control over them.

Think about how many times have you wished you didn’t immediately lash out in anger? These were moments when your emotional competency was not optimally operating for you.

Unfortunately, there are no do-overs!

Additionally, it is one’s emotional intelligence that allows you to more easily recover from emotional setbacks – so you can get back on your feet again.

3. Motivation as exhibited in people with a high level of emotional competency is the ability to persevere in the face of setbacks and challenges.

They are undaunted by failure and frustrations, they take the initiative, and they strive to improve and move forward in pursuit of the goal.

Even in the face of adversity, one’s commitment and motivation never wavers.

4. Empathy is rooted in the ability to know – or sense – what other people are feeling. Empathic people are capable of showing kindness and compassion towards others when they are in distress or hurting – even if you don’t feel these same feelings.

Empathy is on display when one is able to see the other person’s perspective, (even – or especially – when they differ from your own) especially during challenging times. This allows for the ability to bring together a diverse group of people and opinions to unite for a common cause.

Clearly you can see the high correlation between leadership and high emotional intelligence.

5. Social skills are seen as the ability to handle both your own emotions, and the emotions of others in a productive, as opposed to destructive manner.

People with high emotional intelligence optimally utilize “soft skills” to effectively communicate, actively listen, collaborate and unify others. This ability is rooted in the ability to be empathic (core #4).

Conclusion

Perhaps the best news about all these 5 aspects of emotional intelligence: self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy and social skills, is that unlike your IQ, they can all be learned and improved upon with knowledge and practice.

Which one of the above 5 aspects of emotional intelligence do you believe is your strongest or weakest attribute?

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During this week’s Dr Patty Ann’s Tuesday Tips for Success, a viewer wanted to know how to work with a boss she doesn’t like – at all. Watch my answer below.


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During Dr. Patty Ann’s Tuesday Tips for Success a viewer asked about the best way to switch careers from on-line publishing to coding. Watch my answer in the video below.


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During Dr. Patty Ann’s Tuesday Tips for Success this week, a viewer wanted to know how he should handle his belief that his boss is “dumping” extra work on him – in the name of delegation.


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During Dr. Patty Ann’s Tuesday Tips for Success interview, a viewer wanted advice on how to help her company have the “difficult” conversation at work. Click below to hear my answer.


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During Dr. Patty Ann’s Tuesday Tips for Success, the Co-Owners of a company wanted to know how to handle an employee whose cluttered work space is a distraction for others. Click below to hear my response.


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“To Go or NOT to Go” to the Office Holiday Party? That is the question a viewer posed during Dr. Patty Ann’s Tuesday Tips for Success on @WTNH Ch. 8. Click below to hear my answer!


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